This may sound contradictory, but in order to maintain real happiness we have to learn to not care about things too much. Happiness stems from an ability of not clinging to the materialist things in life. Psychologists have said that happiness is intensified by experiences and not by actual objects.  True happiness will come once you start valuing the little things that fill the gap. The laughs, memories and opportunities that are laying in the path that you walk.

When it comes to being happy, we need to ensure that we are actually happy and grateful and joyous on what we have instead of just focusing on the things we want. Wanting things that are not necessarily solid in our lives at the moment, could change. Things that are not hard-core present achievements may change according to the situation at the point in life. We can not be happy for the things that might be taken from us before we even get them. Therefore, it is important to value and be happy for the things that you currently do have in the present.

In the case of not caring about things too much, we tend to avoid the pain of losing something that we could have achieved but had no chance to as yet. Not caring too much also protects you from other pain of losing things that do not necessarily bring value and meaning to your life. We are quick to advance in getting different things that we think in the moment, are important, but they end up being the opposite. We have to learn to care for and value the moments or objects that have proper meaning to us.

Happiness is a tricky thing. We don’t have to be smiling all day, every day. If you ask me, that would be pretty painful to the facial muscle, but it is more of a matter of keeping your head and staying positive in the negative situation that we come across. Setting our priorities and valuing the importance of all that we have and truly love in the present. This is not to say that you should forget about your future goals and their importance, but the things we have in the present is what gives us the capabilities of setting and achieving the goals.

“Happiness is not something you postpone for the future;  it is something you design for the present.” -Jim Ronn